Here are the top 10 reasons why I got it BAD…
1. He's not all talkSo there you have it. Feel free to make fun cuz I don’t even care lol. Yup I got it bad yall!
Last Monday I told him that I wanted to see him. I let him know that while I recognized and understood the fact that he was busy, I wanted him to make time to see me soon and I kinda felt some type of way about the fact that we hadn't talked in concrete terms about us seeing each other again. We talked it over and by the end of the conversation; I had an invite to see him that weekend :). The next day when I was making plans, I told him I wanted to come down Friday after work. He said he wasn’t sure if he could clear his schedule for Friday and that Saturday might work better. I told him to just let me know, but to push for Friday if at all possible lol. He came back and said that Friday was cool :) I found out days later that he rearranged his schedule to make it all happen. That meant so much to me because of course he didn't have to.
1. He's really appreciative
To show my gratitude for being so accommodating to my madness, I gave him four small gifts and wrote haikus and a poem about what they meant and why I was giving each one to him. I also read it to him while wearing boy shorts, a matching bra and a wife beater because weeks ago he mentioned me wearing something like that. I was NERVOUS as all get out!! He really liked my little presentation though! He brought it up quite a few times over the course of the weekend and even said to me, "After last night, I decided that me and my wife are going to do 20 dollar gift days. I really liked what you did and I think that would be cool." Saying “Thank you” once would have been more than sufficient, but I was really touched by how appreciative he was.
1. He's full of surprises
We spent the Saturday basically doing things he would have done if I wasn't there. He rearranged his schedule, but he didn't cancel everything, only what he could get out of. He also had to take a number of calls throughout the day. Needless to say, undivided attention was in short supply. When we finally were able to wind down for the day and watch a movie, it didn't completely stop because he was on his laptop typing away. I made a comment about him being the king of multi-tasking which you all know loosely translated means “Put down the damn laptop and pay me some attention dammit!” lol. He didn't get the hint lol. The next day when I was checking my email, I learned what he’d been doing. He sent me two messages the night before with links to jobs he wanted me to apply for. He was job hunting for me :) Gotta love it!
1. I got freezer space!
I have a bunch of self-inflicted inconvenient diet restrictions right now, so feeding me was going to prove to be very tricky. He eats a steady diet of turkey bologna and pudding lol, so I decided to just run to Wal-Mart on my way there and pick up a few items to take the burden off of him. I bought a couple Morning Star Farms veggie products and when he saw them in the freezer he asked if I wanted to leave them there. Yay!! I got freezer space!!
1. He tells me what to do...
And I like it (sometimes lol)!! It's no secret that I can be a bit of a “know it all” lol. Even though I'm working on it, my knee jerk reaction to unsolicited direction is usually resistance in the form or outright defiance or a sarcastic retort. Not with him though. Well, that's not entirely true...not with him always lol. Most of the time I do what he tells me with no thought or back talk, but even when I come back with a smart retort and continue doing what I want to do, I dig him taking control of things. I look forward to the day when I can trust a man enough to let him completely have the reigns, but until that day comes, I'll stay a back seat driver with my hand on the wheel asking questions like “Where we goin? Are we there yet?” lol. As far as he's concerned, I'm loosening my grip more and more each day.
1. He sings to me...
BADLY and LOUDLY, but he sings to me lol. And he changes the words and puts my name in the songs too. It always makes me blush and I think that's exactly why he does it. One tune I've heard a couple times now is a little ditty called “Cupid” (not the 112 version either lol)...
1. He looks at me like THAT…
You know the look I’m talking about; the one that makes you blush like Miss Celie after she kisses Shug Avery for the first time lol. I can be in the middle of a sentence, cooking or putting on lotion and he'll just stare at me. When I ask him "What?" or "What are you looking at?" He usually replies "Aww...you're so pretty" or "You're so beautiful." It makes me feel like a giggling school girl who just got that "Do you like me" note from the cutest boy in the class EVERY SINGLE TIME lol.
1. The cuddling!
I usually HATE trying to sleep in a tight cuddle. Most of the time I'm uncomfortable because I can't find the proper head position and/or I'm worried about the weight of my body making the guy’s arm fall asleep. I've always maintained that it’s cute for about ten minutes then let me go so I can actually get some sleep. Well with him, it feels like we find new and comfortable positions to sleep in every night. We fit together perfectly! From spooning, to him on his back and my head on his chest, it all just feels so good. I think my most fave is the newest one the “Spoon with the Hand Hold” lol. Yeah that's a good one right there lol.
1. THE SEX
I would go into detail, but this is a PG-13 blog lol. I don't want folks who read this at work to get blocked because the site now contains adult content lol. I will say this...after Sunday morning's session; I lay on the bed in the same position for 5 minutes after it was over, unable and unwilling to move. *fans self*
1. The Random Things
Like, him “Supermanin” past the kitchen after I begged him to stop singing that stupid song because it would be stuck in my head…or the way he puts his arm across my mid section when he’s making a turn because that’s what his mom does…or when he’s driving and reaches over and rubs my knee…or when I’m in the kitchen and he comes over and smacks me on the ass…or watching him dry off after a shower…or how he doesn’t snore ( I love him for this one right here!!)…or how he told the lady in church who complimented him on his singing voice *rolls eyes* that the bass she heard was actually me lol…shoo, the fact that he took me to church in the first place…or him telling me numerous times "I'm really glad you're here"...*sigh*
15 comments:
greetings!
i've been visiting your blog for some time now. im not sure if i've ever left comments or not before. however, i really enjoy reading your postings. its very courageous of you to give us all a bird's eye view into your life. and as someone looking from the outside, i'd like to just give you a little insight. and i hope you dont snap at me....but i really feel that you fall too hard too soon for these men. you seem like a sweet girl. but you're selling yourself short. i say, get to know them a little longer. and then begin to date. it would make for a much more sucessful and happy ending. but im no dating guru, its just my opinion.
I absolutely love when someone can articulate why they are really jonesing for someone and this is a GREAT list!!!
I actually 'awww'ed at YOU though... reading hikus in boy shorts and wife beaters.
Go 'head now!
Anonymous, lol, I won't snap at you I promise! I appreciate your comments and I hope that you will leave more in the future.
I really thought about what you said. I reflected back on my past relationships, paying particular attention to the dealings I've had in the time that I've been keeping this blog and I'm having trouble seeing where I've "fallen too fast" before. If by "falling" you mean "liking" someone then I suppose I am guilty as charged. I am positively boy crazy and I crush REALLY easily on good looking men lol. I make no bones about that one. As far as developing feelings for someone well...I've come to believe that time is subjective. What's too fast for one person may be too slow for another. Why just the other day I read something someone wrote saying they would wait 2 years before telling a person "I love you." That's a bit too long for my taste, but if she likes it I love it lol. I prefer to just go with the flow because I learned a long time ago that my emotions can't be controlled. I can't stop myself from feeling one way or make myself feel another. I'm just not wired that way. I can however, FAKE it and that's never a good look for any of the parties involved. My motto is "To thine own self be true" and in that vain, if a guy is saying and doing all the right things and he's proved himself to be trust worthy then I'd be crazy to try and stop myself from having feelings for him. Actually, I'd be someone else besides me :)
Mia, THANKS!! LOL!! It sounds so bonkers when I read it that way lol! "reading haikus in boyshorts" LOL!!
I am highly envious of all this good stuff you got goin on over there.
Good for you cause you deserve it :)
Eck! Yall make me sick!
It sounds good. Maybe this one will be the one. Will see.
Awwww, he sounds really awesome. I do hope it works out. I'll beat his ass if it doesn't. LOL!
EBZ, thanks hon!!
B. Good, I aint mad at you! I make me sick too lol!!
Javaughn, thanks!! Not sure I want to let my mind go there just yet. That will open up a whole new can of worms lol!! Who am I kidding?! I've already got our china pattern picked out lol! I kid! I kid!!
Yay!! Monie got my back lol. Hopefully there will be no need for violence lol.
thanks for responding! and not snapping at me! lol. i really was worried you'd feel i was attacking you. you articulated your view on the matter very well. and i completely understand. its hard NOT to fall for someone you're really digging. i guess what i meant was that i feel like you may go about falling the wrong way (if thats at all possible.)
for instance, i BELIEVE that the last guy (the JERK) who ended up letting his ex stay with him...anyway if im right, you guys met online? and he was not committed to you when you guys began to engage in a sexual relationship. and then he started to do some things you deemed disrespectful but you couldnt really get mad cuz you guys werent together. and then now this guy (who TRULY sound WONDERFUL, by the way). a red flag went up for me though, when you said some chick called snapping while you guys were together. and that you were pissed, but that you cant really trip cuz you're not in a relationship. i guess what im saying is, i think that if you really wanna keep this one, you should not do "relationship" type stuff until you are in a committed relationship. for example, immma just put it out there...sex. lol. no matter how sexy they are i feel that creating more of a foundation of trust, and friendship, and communication should come first. then, once the two of you decide to commit to each other, you dont have to worry about some other broad calling his phone. like i said you seem so sweet. like someone id hang out with...just trynna look out for another sista. keep doing you. but there's nothing wrong with excercising a little extra wisdom. peace and blessings!
Anonymous, you've made some very valid points, all of which I've considered on my own in the past. I admit that waiting is often times the best option and this is something I've been trying to change, I just haven't been very successful. You know, you keep doing what you've been doing and you'll keep getting what you've been getting and all that jazz. Once again, thanks for your comments! And hey, don't be a stranger!! Come on forth :)
Aww he does sound wonderful! I hope it works out for you. It is soo great to be involved with someone that appreaciates you. Its really refreshing. He sounds a lot like my BJ. Especially the staring at you and making you blush and when you ask "what?" He goes "you're beautiful." My baby still does that even after a 1 and half tho not as much as before. Where he used to do it every day its now every week. LOL. Not bad, right? Again I hope things work out for you.
AWWW!! You are 'in like' and it is so damn cute! I loves it, carry on, Anna Mae!
P.s..I love when a man I'm diggin tells me what to do, smack my ass and pull my hair too, daddy! Ok, that was TMI, but you get my point.lol
Misschris lucky you!! That's definitely not bad! Once a week after a year? I'll take it lol!
Sha I KNOW you not talkin lol! You're pretty darned cute yourself with Sir Snappy lol! And how funny is it that both of us, big mouths, opinionated and all, like to be told what to do? lol!!
I love himmmmmm!!!! AWW. I'm so happy for you. You know we've been going through it with these raggedy butt men. I'm glad we both found somebody worth shoutin out! YAY!
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